Did following relationship advice create bigger problems?

I had been with my SP for 3 years, in the final year of our relationship I started to feel like I wasn’t a priority, he would spend more and more time with friends or doing sports, so I raided the internet (as you do) and many influencers were saying, women shouldn’t chase, pull back, let them come to you. So that’s what did, I stopped texting him during the day, I didn’t greet him when he came home, expecting him to find me in the house…all the while thinking I was creating a void where he would naturally come back. The opposite happened, he pulled further away. So my question is, Joseph’s video titled ‘second-self method’ alludes to by creating avoidance in myself under EIYPO did I actually create more distance from him by being distant? I ended our relationship because I increasingly felt un-prioritised. I want him back, but as the version he was when we first met, when he couldn’t wait to come home to me etc., etc.